Indian Women
Hi All,
You are going to love Indian men for thinking this way!!! Really worth the read
one of the BEST e-mails I’ve received in a long time!!
It seems that an article was written to a well-founded magazine, by an English woman who requested a response from Indian men. I’m so glad she got, what she asked for (and more)!!!
This letter was written in response to the following article:
Dear Editor:
I’m sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Indian male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to an Indian male, good-looking, educated and loving. I just don’t understand a lot of Indian female’s attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Indian women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Indian men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world If Indian women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don’t they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we’re out in public. I would like to hear from some Indian men about why we white women are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan , Cuba Gooding Jr., DonCornelius, Berry Gordy, BillyBlanks, Larry Fishburne, Jesley Snipes…I could go on and on.
But,right now, I’m a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don’t be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us.
Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I’m wrong, Indian men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.
The Response:
Dear Editor:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Indian man. I studied from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Non-White men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women.
Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Indian men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Indian girls in my neighborhood were raised traditionally. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Indian males date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Indian men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Indian women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many Indian men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Indian men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Indian men date white women. Non-Whites like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestn! ut,Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth ‘Babyface’ Edmonds , Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Non-White women. And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Non-White women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don’t want the ‘Disgusted White Girl’ to be misinformed.
Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Non-White Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt , you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history! It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Non-White woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Non-White women who were raising your babies during slavery. It is the Non-White woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Indian women were born with two strikes against them: being Non-White and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the Indian women’s strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Indian Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colours and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Indian women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with Indian women.
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin. If you are so proud to be white, then why don’t you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips unnatural and dangerous substancesso you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Non-White woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understand my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed,
Indian Royalty.
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Indian women gave, still gives and will give me so much to be absorbed. i have several very good friends born and raised/living in India who are treasures for my journey. Often wherever i go people tells me that “are u from India” and i always take it as a positive regard.
I came upon this blog by accident, and couldn’t help reading the topic on Indian Women.
Disgusted White Girl and Indian Royalty are displaying an all too prevalent behavior in my opinion. It is excessive racial/national pride which I believe is detrimental if not destructive to humanity. They both seem to think that all white women can be characterized in one way and all Indian women can be characterized in another – be it positive or negative. Small minded people need to establish some collective superiority in this way. In the end, this alienates one group for another. Do you really believe that one’s abilities and values are somehow related to the geographic location of birth, pigment of skin, or genetics? And even if such a thing was so, then your virtues are attained by luck and so you have absolutely nothing to be proud of. I find it irritating and funny that some Indians forward mail telling us to be proud of ourselves because Indians invented the number zero and such things. Then they quote white or Western people who speak highly of them. Do you need their validation? Would you not be proud if the number zero was invented elsewhere?
Cultural trends there may be, but none of us pick a mate based on these without looking at the individual. I am marrying a white American woman, and I am of Indian descent. My fiancee is very independent and is not docile. I didn’t choose her because of a pre-dispostion about who she was. She was attractive and she agreed to go out with me. I have communicated with and met Indian or Indian-American women in the past – or tried to meet some. Some I did not relate to. Some did not like me. Some rejected me because I wasn’t a doctor or wealthy. And, some had absolutely no sense of courtesy or manners. I flew to California to meet a girl at a family event and she never called to say she decided not to come.
It seems that Indian Royalty has great pride in his women, but has no shame for the men who use them or cannot appreciate modern Indian women. What does White girl have to be jealous about if she has the Indian man she wants. And, if Indian men covet White women so, then why are there over a billion Indians in India?
The conclusion is, even with all their education:
People are Stupid
I started reading this one with just a plain mind as i didn’t know what lay ahead.
@ stupid person… if you think that you are talking rationally, the in-between of the two extremes, then how come you put the indian women so low as to say *What does White girl have to be jealous about if she has the Indian man she wants. And, if Indian men covet White women so, then why are there over a billion Indians in India?*
No women, Indian or otherwise, is a sex object! Period. We (women) are not here to be your (men) prized possesions. At the same time we (man and woman) compliment each other!
And all said and done, being an Indian Woman, I am proud of my nation, my culture and my skin.
Hey Sakhi, I didn’t reply Stuopid Person’s comment because I was unable to think what to say to this man/women. Now this is something good to say, all he/she takes as foolproof is sex which is not most important object in our life at all. Well said!!!
Thanks
Hi, I was surfing around the net when i came across the topic, Nice Blog Suda
now, I felt very sad when I read the reaction of that Indian person, He is being very racial much like the Other white person.
I have to agree with the “Stupid Person” in most terms… They both are showing excessive racial / Culturl pride,.
What I am saying is its not bad to have pride, go have it BUT! You do not have the right to say some one else’s cultur is bad / wrong just because you think so. Tredition…
Now as far as I can see the entire topic was mostly about sexual representation & prematerial sex ?
Sex is OK. SEX IS NATURAL, We All do it…and there is no reason to fight “against it”. I am not an Indian person so I am not aware but i believe in India people are allowed to have sex after they are married? but THAT IS NOT HUMAN RIGHTS, Every human has right to make decision for themselves and no religion or culture can force it..
If Some one would like to have sex you cant say you are wrong, if they like a white women or feel a white women is attractive(which she is ) then a indian then its his disicion….. You cant judge India like all Indian girls are same nor You Judge USA like all USA girls are same or say White folks are same. There racists in both nations..
So bottom line would be that: Hey its all about who you relate with, No matter if she is Indian, American, Brazilian, Pakistani, or a african tribe. Its right to show pride in your race but its Shame to Show another race lower unless you have full facts against this proposition which in this matter the first poster has only few and second poster”pride” had lower and bad rate of judging. END OF STORY.
from NewZealand. Cheers
Hi
Good day, I hope you are in good health. I am a Cameroonian by nationality. I am deaf male from a town Limbe. I am humble and kind. I am a church catholic. I am a students at the college for the deaf in Buea. If I have completed all the education. I need a Indian beautifu woman to marry. I am faithful to my wife forever. I love the lord my God with all my heart, with all my soul, with all my mind, with all my strength. Amen. Thank you God bless you
Elonge Conrad
You have a separate page for this post!
I second Sakhi in her opinion that no women, white or non-white is an sex object. Btw, did you read my recent post on women it has perspective of two countries: http://alchemistpoonam.wordpress.com/2008/07/02/feminist-reader/
Its a long post but one that ends for a note to Indian men.
To begin, let me dispel alot of misconceptions about “white women”, lol. I was born in the US, my grandparents were immigrants from Slovenia and Hungary. I was raised Catholic, and in a household free of prejudice of people from other races and religions. I find it sad to read your commentary and I find it very narrow minded and racist. I have dated, (not had sexual relations with), Caucasian men, Jewish men, and men of Hispanic and Indian descent. I respect and embrace other cultures, and I believe that if two people fall in love, what does all of this matter? If one is fortunate enough to find a life partner who respects them, loves them unconditionally, that is a great thing. I believe that you are promoting racism,segragation and stupid antiquated beliefs that definitely will limit you in your personal growth as an individual. Wake up!!
HI
I am a white woman and I recently got married to an Indian man. He is Punjabi and from Chandigarh,India.
And… He has friends in the USA and their wives have talked bad about me. They said he is lowering his standards by marrying a white woman and if he wanted a wife he should have come to them. They would have got him a nice Indian Bride.
DO NOT JUDGE ME IF YOU DO NOT KNOW ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!
These three women do not know me. They have just met me one time and they have never talked to me.
No offense but, my husband REFUSES to marry an Indian women. First of all he said they all sleep around.
They are very materialistic and they only want money.
This is QUOTED by my husband who lived in India his whole life.
I do not like the NASTY remarks that were made about me. Everyone has their own choices and their own dislikes.
The problem is that people can not worry about their own life and family they have to be a busy body and talk about other people.
Usually when people do this they are depressed or very unhappy with themselves.
This is the year 2009. Get use to the Interracial marriages because a lot of more of Indians and Americans are going to get married.
@Smart White Woman
As you must have noticed, these are not my thoughts! I put this article here to just see different reactions. And I like your answer
I would like to see your name or at least nickname instead of “Smart White Woman” though.
Cheers
It makes me sad to hear such racist remarks. We are all created in the same fashion and yet demeaning someones race/sex makes me confused. I’m a white woman with good morals and values. I love my Indian man and he loves me and my kids just as much as I do. We are going to get married in 2008. I love and respect the men and woman in both our countries. Don’t hate because of bad remarks. Love the people they are good. From USA
Typo, 2009
I wonder if Western literature at any point had a character like Kunti or Draupadi…I appreciate Indian Royalty, but sadly we still do have to learn how to value our daughters and women from the West. There lies the irony, Suda
they appreciate their women better than our men do for us. You have to admit that.I think I had better marry a white man 
You can’t judge what someone is thinking before they talk to you. You really have to get to know them and the more you know them the better you can tell what they are all about.
Hi Suda,
Thanks for the comment and for your positive response. Let’s just now refer to me as a “smart, non biased, non racial woman who believes that life is too short for all of the limitations that people put on themselves, lol”.
Mari’ska
Sorry, had to add this…..The most important thing in a relationship, I believe, is being able to communicate with your partner. If you cannot communicate and be comfortable with your partner, the relationship probably will not last…
Sakhi told it was it is. I am a white man and travelled the world including Inda. Rather a woman is green, yellow, orange makes no difference. As long as the couple love each and wants to be together.
Go for it. You can not make a person love you. But if one does love you, consider yourself lucky no matter what race he or she is.
Hi Indian Royalty,
I loved your comment
)) You just spoke my mind 
))
Cheers,
Sudha
This article was meant for African Americans and not Indians.
I have no idea why anyone decided to change it for Indians.
Don’t believe me? Check out the mentioned actors. All African Americans.
Where did this article come from? Did the white woman write anything back or what? I think this article is sooooooooooo true,but does not reflect against white immigrants like “smart white woman”. this article is defending native american women agaist english settlers. Maybe if the “disgusted white girl” knew what she was talking about she would have corrected herself and not have made this article go beyond to all pale skinned races. This article is an ongoing war between Native Americans and Enlish settlers.
@ N8ive Pride
This article has nothing to do with Native Americans. It’s about Indians. You know, from India? Duh
maybe Indian men marry white women for the same reasons most of them marry or prefer lighter skinned Indian women? You may not want to admit but it simply has to do with the ingrained fact that lighter the skin color of the mother the better looking the next generation. Think about it-go into your own families and see if this isn’t true. In India when men look for potential brides they and their families have a preference for the ‘lighter’ skinned Indian woman. So why not marry a white girl to be at the top?-Get it?
whiter skin is ok but we indians like beauty and moral values both.we are not like europeans and americans where divorce rate is at the top.when yu people marry yu have in your mind the maximum timelimit for your relationship.that is totally not acceptable yu people(whie men and women)should learn something from indians that how to adjust themself in a relationship.yu forget that india has given some missworld and universe beating all yu white beauties.and whether indian girl is white or black i’ll marry only indian girl not any white girl and that not a racism.
be cheers for indian girl and her beauty.