Different things again (or same?) [a sad sequel]

[Sad] part 1:

Sunday: Me and my friend were sitting in the garden at Bal Gandharv Chitramandir, Pune. We were sitting there chatting. My friend (a girl) suddenly went silent and started glaring at somebody behind me. On asking she said in very low voice,” That girl is looking at us and she is errr.. smiling weirdly a little!”. I smirked and turned to look while my friend awkwardly continued,” She seems a bit …. lost.” Surely that girl was lost in thoughts because she didn’t notice us looking at her. She was now staring at nowhere and a kinda weird smile was plastered on her face. And suddenly a hot(probably) tear rolled out that unknown girls eye and second eye copied its partner. Tears started streaming out her eyes and she was still like a statue. Unable to strain her face from showing real emotions, she threw it in her hands and started crying silently.

I turned to my friend and asked her to stop looking at her. But she was no more looking at that girl. Now it was her turn to start being weird, I guessed.

[Not much sad] part 2:

My guess was not that good as it is always. My friend was merely thinking about some related things came to her mind. “May be she has installed the “related posts feature” wordpress introduced few days ago”, I thought.
“What can be her problem?”, I was ready for this question and I opened my mouth to retort when she continued, “Ok, whatever her problem is, why don’t she just go home and cry in her bed? Why she is sitting here in a public place like this where almost everyone comes to enjoy evenings?”
Now, I was wondering with same question in my mind. There were couples all over the place, children playing in lawn, grandmas chatting loudly, grandpas observing nearby couples activities, mummy’s sitting with amused expressions, Bhelwala shouting to attract customers, youngsters looking at couples who sit very closely with curious looks and many more. Now, why the hell that girl was sitting in couples corner of garden ALONE?

I don’t think we need an expert to answer. Heartbreak is obvious one but there are many important things in life that losing a boyfriend. may be she had a row with her mother and she shouted something serious. Obviously girl can not sit and cry at home which will make her mother more angry. Or there was something really bad happening with her which she found impossible to tell anybody about. We can never know. life is not that simple as it seems. Or it is.

[Just my thoughts] Part 3:

Our meeting abruptly ended as my friend started remembering how she used to cry silently in nights when she was stuck at an awful place (awful = no means of contact with me) and her parents never noticed. I thought leaving the place a good idea but for a moment I though of going and trying consoling the girl. She was thinking same and she believed that my great communication abilities towards girls can help me here. I hesitated for a minute or so and then decided against it. What if that girl was a … I am not accusing or doubting, but for a second I thought what if she is a prostitute who came there just to relieve herself from mental strain. This thought stopped me in tracks. I decided and told my friend firmly,”No, we are not going to disturb her. And don’t offer her water either.” I continued as she took out water bottle.

I don’t know what made me not to console her. I usually work on my instincts. And they have never ever failed me. I still think it was a wise decision.

Opinions, thoughts, claims, blames, suggestions, and much more expected from YOU GUYS.

23 thoughts on “Different things again (or same?) [a sad sequel]

  1. That girl was probably crying because she was so happy that she broke up with her boyfriend! She looked at you and sweety sitting on the bench, so obviously in love with each other, and smiled a wise smile, knowing full well the treacherous nature of relationships. Her boyfriend was cheating on her and was a huge jerk and she was miserable in that relationship, and after a long time, she broke up with him finally! she decided to take a walk in the park to clear her mind and saw u both there… she silently wanted to scream out to sweety to be careful with you..!! πŸ˜€

    (No offense, buddy… Just one of the weird reasoning pathways of my brain!) πŸ˜€

  2. Nikhil,
    Ahh, what an explanation!!! I am now completely sure that the BF of that girl was you. Or I thought so for a moment. You explained it too clearly as you know it by heart πŸ˜€

    and BTW why don’t you try telling Sweety (whatever was in mind of that girl). πŸ˜› Should I provide the contact number? I suggest not to say a bad word about me in front of her if you mind your safety πŸ˜€

  3. No man, I can’t tell sweety… you only tell her… i’m afraid that I’ll speak nonsense and you’ll fly down to bangalore and kill me! πŸ˜€
    I’m too young to die! πŸ˜€

  4. Man…! your girlfriend can install WP plugins 😯 …gr8. & with no offenses meant, Sweety doesn’t sound good, so find some other nickname for use in future posts. πŸ™‚

    Its good that you didn’t touch the “crying girl”, you never know what other people are upto.

    However, these are possibilities of what could have happened if you got involved.

    1. Girl is crying, you go to girl, she starts crying even loudly, you try to silent her, she starts screaming, everyone is that chitrasingh park thinks you are doing something, everybody gathers and beats you up. Now, you and your sweety is crying.

    2. Girl is crying, you go to girl, try to console her, she starts crying on our shoulder (the axe effect or denim for men who don’t have to try to hard), Now, your gf gets disturbed, that why isn’t that lady leaving your shoulder and you try to explain her the axe effect story etc but in vain, she starts crying and leaves, you start crying, now the consoled girl is consoling you, while leaning on your own shoulder.

    3. You go to girl for consoling her, she says she only gets consoled by XBOX 360 gaming console or PS3 kit, you say you don’t have that, she cries even loudly and starts screaming,people look at you, you fearing of what could have happened in situation one(where you got beaten), promise her a gaming console so she shuts up. Now, you are buying her a gaming console.

    4. & another one, you go to girl to console her, her boyfriends back telling he is sorry, she wipes her tears and tells his boyfriend you were disturbing her, his boyfriend out of anger,agression and desperate emotions gives you a choke-slam and a tombstone.Now the singh park has your tombstone.The park gets renamed after you, which is a good thing.

  5. Anshul,
    Point noted.
    And you are right about each reason, I also thought the same.
    Actually I thought of making this incident a serious type of post , but then I changed my mind. Things are better taken lightly if they aren’t doing any harm.

    You know whats good for you, and I will take help of your brother (his b’day treat) πŸ˜€

  6. You got me tangled here- ‘my great communication abilities towards girls can help me here’. Hmmmm is it true?

    Well its good you didn’t help..sometimes you should a person crying so that they take out all their negativity out and feel stronger afterwards! And like you mentioned it was a public park- so who knows public might have targetted you as well?

  7. FrutyMind,
    Well ask my friends who know it very well. πŸ˜› You will know when you will meet me in furure some day πŸ™‚
    I didn’t get this “should leave a *” What does it mean?

  8. You should have gone to her and consoled her.
    Then you should have dropped her at her house and asked your friend to walk back home. πŸ˜›
    Then you should have taken her number when you would have dropped her.
    Then you should have called her and gone on a date with her.
    Then you should have kissed her while you would have dropped her back after a wonderful date.
    Then you should have proposed her after three months of dating.
    Then both of you should have got married.

    *sigh* You really dissapointed me. 😐

  9. @Amit
    Way to go man! Amazing idea!

    Suda!! Learn from Amit! πŸ˜€
    And don’t forget to send Sweety an invite for the wedding! πŸ˜€

  10. Amit,
    Sweety is saying that she is glad I did disappoint you πŸ˜›
    BTW your suggestion is better than what I did. πŸ˜€

    Sweety is asking for your address, mortal peril!!! bro Run!!!! πŸ˜›

    Thanks and welcome to my blog. And I agree with you but how can someone will be able to listen to anything when Nikhil, anshul and amit are bobling around (also Fruity teasing) πŸ˜€

  11. Interesting Topic!!!

    I like your obeservation and thinking process. But I would like to mention that there are only prediction. Since you dont know what exactly happened.

    And it is not necessary that every person cries for gaining some help.

    Whether you go to help her or not, is only for your satisfaction.

    Keep it up. Keep writing.

    Now I will visit your blog frequently.

    Love and Peace,

  12. i really respect ur decision of not consoling her, but if i were u, i wud have gone for it.

    anyways, nice post indeed.

    Keep writing.

    besided i m adding you on my blogroll.

  13. Intutius
    Thanks man. Rethinking about the incident told me that it was a wise decision indeed. πŸ™‚
    And BTW, where do you write?

  14. I support Anshul’s ‘theory of girl crying in the park’. It wudnt be wise to go console a stranger in the park especially if its a gal. :).
    The parks in blore am not sure about pune) are not safe even for married couples….
    Imagine you consoling the gal and then a policeman approches.. he notices the gal crying… asks on ur relationship with the gal….you say you just walked in to help her.. “aha” says the policeman and gives you a free ride to the police station.

  15. Xylene
    And the police station is situated near the gate of the garden. But this garden is totally safe. Many families arrange a little get-together on lawns. So its not just a couple-garden πŸ˜›

  16. Hey, “Name says nothing”, stop using your co.nr domain name while leaving comments, since its the one mostly used by spammers and I have to de-spam your comments all the time, since akismet sends it to spam queue. But I mite someday miss by mistake or something. Whats the prob with love life and logic ?

  17. Maybe u did the right thing or maybe not. I think you should have atleast let Sweety do what she wanted. Its not like I m blaming u but what a sad state of Indian society where people think twice before consoling anyone who may for all we know be on the verge of emotional breakdown and committing suicide. Where the consequences as stated by Anshul come to our minds (the third one was absolute crap) and the fear of being misunderstood by police too. Where we treat prostitutes as lepers. Where one human being can not provide few moments of sympathy to another lest he or she is misunderstood. Has indifference creeped into our souls and behaviour so much like when no one wants to stop and take an accident victim to hospital and like u said in ur post on terrorism “We say , ” Why should I bother” for any social issue which is not harming us.”

  18. Reema,
    Your point is absolutely correct logically. But things depend on “Surroundings”. One cannot just act same everywhere. And frankly speaking, I was sure that no one would have helped me or Sweety if things had took different(bad) angle.

    So even if you are right about everything, I will say please don’t try to make every thought generic. Thats what my father taught me and thats what helps me in tight spots.
    Hope you see my point. πŸ™‚

    (ohh you made me spill out my secret πŸ˜€ )

  19. I didn’t know my comment would be taken so seriously, while I did not use smileys as I was in hurry. But What can I say, may be “Dog knows what god knows”. :mrgreen:

    Thanks for the support Xylene. πŸ™‚ & yeah 3rd one was crap. πŸ˜‰

    and Suda, why don’t you run a poll where you can ask all your blog readers, that how many would like to be consoled in the same situation by a stranger, other things remaining constant.

    Happy Blogging.

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